Being a woman of character and faith is worth far more than rubies (Prov. 31). God’s Word reminds us of the value that Christ places on women. But being that mother, sister, and wife that reflects godliness, can sometimes be difficult. I don’t wake up every morning oozing grace as much as I wish it were true. And there are days that I want to be in the driver’s seat, calling the shots in my own life, or even days when the busyness of life seems to snuff out my passion. But it is in those times that God always seems to remind me that my character will be strengthened, my cup filled with grace and my day less complicated when I pursue Him first. The greatest way to be godly is simply to pursue Christ... Everyday, on your face before the God that already knows every hiccup that will come your way and your reaction to it. Pursue Him with intentionality. Talk to God. Allow Him to so penetrate your heart that He shines out of you and spills over into every relationship you have. When your husband eats your leftovers that you have been craving all day, let God’s grace spill over. When your toddler asks you the same question for the fourteenth time, remember how patient God is with you. When you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, remember Christ’s perfect plan in creating you. Pursue Christ, get on your knees, love on those around you, and do it all over again the next day.
But for those of you who have not yet experienced the chance to extend God’s love within a family unit, do not fear, your day will come. I was once one who was patiently waiting, or perhaps tapping my toe, for God to bring that special person into my life. Take heart. One of the most difficult tests a Christian sister can endure is the relinquish of control in the area of relationships. You see, God made a woman’s heart to specifically crave an intimate relationship with the opposite sex. So, it can be extremely difficult to wait on God’s leading in that area of your life. In Jewish tradition young ladies would only enter into a relationship with a man when he literally came to her fathers house and knocked on her door. If she chose to open the door, their time of betrothal would be official. While the girl ultimately had the final decision as to whether to open and accept or let the door remain closed, the details were pre-arranged by someone who knew her and loved her more than anyone; her father. I can only imagine hundreds of Jewish teenage girls worrying and wondering if and when their prince was going to come. But the point is that he did come. We would do well to follow their example and to trust the process to someone who ultimately loves us and has the puzzle already figured out. Wait in joy! Your prince will come for you. Pray without ceasing and trust with all your heart. Pursue Christ!
Lacey is married to Cesar Arocha and they have two daughters. Lacey and Cesar lead the student ministry at Putnam City Baptist Church in Oklahoma. Lacey is an incredible wife, mother, friend, and mentor, but above all she is a huge Jesus lover and she has devoted her life to making him known. We are so excited to have her as a guest writer for 4G1P!