I know I know, another post on singleness and how I need to find myself and BLAH BLAH BLAH!!
BUT hear me out for a minute, we are gonna have ourselves a little girl talk. :)
So, about a month ago I was talking with a 19 year old that I had just met and we were discussing relationships and a sentence came out of her mouth that made my jaw drop… “If someone’s not married by 25, they just need to give up” … um, I’m sorry WHAT!? (for one I’m 25 and not married!!) Now behind this statement there could have been a bit of exaggeration, but I feel like she truly believed that. So at this point the conversation got real! I don’t know where all of you are in the area of relationships, but I pray that you do not think or believe that if you aren’t married by 25 that you should give up or that something is wrong with you. I went through too many relationships and even was engaged (when I knew he wasn’t who I needed to be with) because I myself wanted and put an expectation to be married young, I tried to rush into a season of life that I was not ready for. Now, I don’t have time to write a book about how to avoid what I went through that affected me mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically- for that you can email me if you would like, because I would love to talk to you! :) So for now I want to give you a few things to just ponder about in your own life and whatever season you are in.
ask yourself : Why do I want to be married?
“No one, not even the man you will marry
one day, can make you happy-
only Jesus can.” -LIW*
Marriage doesn’t give you purpose, you have purpose because you belong to God!
^You can also replace the word "marriage" with anything that you are looking to to bring you value,
worth or satisfaction. Only God is going to be able to give that to you-I PROMISE- and the beautiful thing is, he already calls you worthy and has placed value over you! If you have trusted in him as your Savior, you are a daughter of the King and He has made you a new creation. Your past does not dictate who you are or who you are to become! Praise God! Now don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful gift that God gives us, it's a relationship that is suppose to express to the world the picture of Christ and the church and it's a high calling, but it's not our only calling. Wherever you are in your life, I want to challenge you to learn to be satisfied in God. “If your life’s not complete, you know that Jesus is, and your life He will fill, if you’ll only put Him first each day and live to do His will.” - Donna L. Mihura
Some things I encourage you to do:
-Seek the Lord and pursue that relationship first.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”(Matt 6:33)
“Seek the Lord and his strength, seek his presence continually.” (Psalm 105:4)
-Love God and Love others.
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”(Matt 22:37-39)
-Find older women who are walking with the Lord ask them to mentor you.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”(Titus 2:3-5)
*Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones
*Passion & Purity by Elisabeth Elliot
Nicole has been around the world and done some incredible things, but she will be the first to tell you that the greatest thing she's ever done is make Jesus the Lord of her life! She has a passion for encouraging and equipping others to be all they can be for Jesus. We are honored to have her partner with us & be a guest writer for 4G1P!